Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in Minneapolis

Yes. We offer virtual couples counseling throughout Minnesota. Both partners must be physically located in Minnesota during the session, but they may participate from anywhere within the state.

The standard rate for couples counseling at ALL IN Therapy Clinic is $215 per session.

If you are using insurance, your out-of-pocket cost may be lower depending on your specific plan and whether you have met your deductible.

As a general estimate:

• If you have not met your deductible, sessions often cost between $125–$200.

• If you have met your deductible, sessions are commonly between $25–$50, or whatever your office visit copay is.

These terms are largely interchangeable. Technically, “marriage counseling” refers to counseling for married couples, while “couples therapy” can apply to any committed relationship. In practice, however, they generally refer to the same type of counseling process.

It is common for couples to begin counseling when one partner is seriously considering leaving the relationship. When this happens, the partner considering separation may not be fully committed to either the relationship or the counseling process. As a result, meaningful progress can become difficult.

When one or both partners are uncertain about staying together, we often recommend discernment counseling instead of traditional couples counseling.

Discernment counseling is a short-term process designed to help couples gain clarity and confidence about the future of their relationship. In contrast, couples counseling is intended for couples who are already committed to staying together and improving their relationship.

If you are unsure whether couples counseling is the right fit for you, it is important to pay attention to that feeling. Counseling is unlikely to be productive if someone does not want to participate, is not committed to the process, or does not feel comfortable with the therapist.

That said, some uncertainty, fear, or ambivalence is completely normal at the beginning. In many cases, it can be helpful to continue for a few more sessions to see whether those feelings settle over time.

However, if your instincts consistently tell you that the process is not right for you, it may be best to stop and reassess your next steps.

Couples counseling is a specialized area of therapy, and discernment counseling is an even more specialized subspecialty within it.

When one or both partners are considering divorce, the stakes are often extremely high. It is important to work with someone who is knowledgeable, experienced, and specifically trained to navigate these complex and emotionally sensitive situations.

While it is possible to find a helpful counselor by chance, we strongly recommend working with a therapist trained in discernment counseling to give yourself the highest level of confidence that you are receiving skilled and appropriate care.

Yes. Discernment counseling often takes place after infidelity or another major relationship crisis.

Infidelity is deeply complex, painful, and traumatic. Before couples begin working on rebuilding trust or repairing the relationship, they sometimes first need clarity about whether they even want to remain together.

In these situations, discernment counseling can be an extremely appropriate and valuable starting point.

When one or both partners are considering leaving the relationship, it is important for each person to have space to openly discuss their thoughts, struggles, goals, and concerns without worrying about how the other person may react.

Separate conversations also allow the discernment counselor to better understand each individual’s needs and perspective.

In some situations, a partner may also be wrestling with sensitive or complicated issues they are not yet ready to discuss together. Having private conversations with the therapist can help them process those concerns more clearly.

During this process, the therapist is often helping the “leaning-in” partner better understand the situation while also providing space and support for the “leaning-out” partner to reflect honestly about the future of the relationship.

A couples counselor should not try to pressure or convince a couple to stay together.

However, a therapist may help normalize relationship struggles, remind couples that many challenges can be overcome, and encourage thoughtful consideration of how a separation may impact others such as children, family members, or shared businesses.

Ultimately, if a couple decides to separate or divorce, a counselor should respect that decision and support the couple in moving forward thoughtfully and responsibly.

Approximately 60% of couples who participate in discernment counseling ultimately choose divorce.

When that happens, the discernment counseling process concludes because the couple has reached clarity and made a decision about their path forward.

Yes. Discernment counseling can be especially helpful when previous couples therapy felt ineffective because one or both partners were not fully committed to the relationship.

In those cases, spending time first addressing whether staying together is truly the right decision can often create greater clarity and lead to more productive next steps.