Do take the time to focus on your well-being and personal values. Virginia Satir, founder of the Satir Experiential Model of family therapy, discussed the idea of “living congruently,” this is when how you act and what you say matches with what you internally feel.
When we live incongruently we lose track of our true self according to authors in the book Marriage and Family Therapy. Often during marital conflict, individuals operate on autopilot as they suppress emotions that come with their distress.
If you take time to separate, prioritize your own needs in order to increase clarity on what is important to you. This includes whether or not you want to save your marriage.
Do have a plan. Many people experience a drop in their income during a separation states research in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. and have children with the partner they are separating from. It is important to consider things like bills, bank accounts, childcare, pets, living arrangements, and what communication will look like.
Consider also seeking legal advice, especially if you want a legal agreement in place during this separation period.
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